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Do you talk to your children? Of course you do. Do you talk with them? Ahh...I got you thinking right? Aren't those the same thing? Nope. I can talk to someone without talking with them.
Do you see the difference? When you are talking to someone, there isn't a discussion. It's not a conversation - it's a monologue. But, when you talk with someone, you listen to what they have to say and have an actual dialog happening.
This is what needs to happen if you want your children to talk with you about things that they are thinking about. Open discussion about everyday topics that they want to talk about are so important to the relationship that you have with your children.
If your children don't talk to you about the little things, there is no way that they are going to talk with you about the important things - like their faith.
That's what today's post is all about ~
How to have Biblical Discussions with your Kids.
Here's the Bible verse that we base our parenting on:
Do you notice the list in there?
We are to teach our children DILIGENTLY.
I looked that word up in the dictionary and here's what it said, "constant in effort to accomplish something; attentive and persistent in doing anything".
Ok. So if we take what the dictionary says and apply it to teaching our children, that means we are to have a constant effort in order to accomplish their Biblical teaching. We are to be attentive to it and persistent in doing it.
Discussing the Bible with our children should be an everyday "thing". Now, I don't mean that you have to sit your children down and say, "Ok children. I'm going to teach you about the Bible." Sometimes that's okay, but that's not "Living the Bible" which is what the topic for this series is all about.
What I'm talking about is discussing Biblical ideas
and topics as they come up in the day.
Let me give you an example of when I was the Assistant Director of a Christian preschool about 10 years ago. We had this wonderful preschool teacher that was the first teacher in the school each morning. As the sun was rising, she would gather all of the children in the room over to the window and say, "Look at the beautiful sun that God has given us! Thank you God for the beautiful sun!" Then all of the children would thank God for the sun and then go on back to playing. That's it! She brought out something that was happening at that moment and brought God into it.
It's doesn't have to be a deep down theological discussion, but it could be depending on what's going on. You can't force it or it's not going to go well. You have to let it just happen. When my kids are scared at night, we pray that Jesus will help them. When we see a car accident, we pray for the people's safety. Before each meal, we pray thanking God for His blessings.
When our boys want to talk about something or ask a question and I can think of a Biblical example, I'll bring that into the conversation.
Just this morning, I was talking with our oldest son about something. Funny how it works, right? He was talking to me about a struggle that he had last night. He was having a discussion in his own mind about wanting to play his iPad in bed even though he knew that he wasn't allowed.
He wanted to know if he was going crazy.
I said, "Yes" and left it at that.
NO, I didn't! I bet I caught your attention, right?
We talked for awhile about temptation and how the Holy Spirit helps us to fight against that. He was having a real life temptation struggle and he won! I brought up Romans 7 where Paul talks about doing the things that he hates while not doing the things that he knows that he should. He then asks if I struggle with anything and so we had a further discussion, after I finished laughing of course.
Our youngest son did something about a week ago, I can't even remember exactly what it was, but we talked about disobedience. He brought up Adam and Eve and so I asked him if God liked when they disobeyed. Then I asked him if God liked when he disobeyed. End of conversation.
You can't Bible beat them with it. There is a fine balance of not enough Biblical teaching and every single answer you give them is a quote from the Bible, whether it makes since or not.
Let them talk about the Bible.
Last Thursday, when my husband and I were taking our youngest to soccer practice, he just started chatting in the back seat about Adam and Eve. There wasn't any real questions in there, he was just talking to us about what was on his mind. We just let him talk and gave a little input here and there. Then that was it. It didn't lead anywhere else and that's fine. If they think that every time then say something to you that you are going to give them a 45 minute sermon, they're not going to talk with you about anything.
Here are a few tips that I have in order to live out Deuteronomy 6:6-9:
Let it flow.
Don't try too hard.
Let the Biblical teaching match what they are asking about.
Start small - then let it grow from there.
Enjoy talking about the Bible with your children!
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