How are all of you doing? It's April. Yikes! I can't believe it, can you?
You know what happens to me every single April? I flounder. You know, like a fish out of water flounders on the deck of a boat - flopping this way and that. That's what I feel like. The funny thing is that I don't realize that it's happening until it happens. I mean, I don't plan on it happening, I don't even think about it happening which means I don't plan for it, which means, yep, you guess it - flounder, flounder, flounder.
What do I mean when I say that I flounder. Well, I struggle with focus. I forget things easier (which is scary looking at how I usually forget things normally). I have a hard time knowing what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. I'm usually a very scheduled person. I use a calendar and I like to plan. I have a hard time with the follow through while I'm floudering (is that even a word?). I just feel like I'm floating through life with no purpose or intention. I don't like that!
It's not good to flounder when you are responsible for the education of 2 children, taking care of a household, cooking meals, running a blog, thinking up ideas (and actually completing them), etc. I don't have time to flounder. I don't like to flounder. I like to have a plan and I like to see that plan completed.
The worst part about this time of year for me is that I feel like I'm failing as a wife, mother, and teacher. Part of that failure is that I don't feel like I'm not doing a good job building up my family. Not that I'm intentionally mean and cruel or anything, but I'm not taking care to lift up the members of my family.
The wisest of women builds her house,
but folly with her own hands tears it down.
So that is just what my focus will be for this month. I am going to be intentional about lifting up my family. It's funny when I planned for this series at the beginning of the year, that "Building Up My House" landed in April. I didn't even think about this struggling time of the year for me and that I would need to be intentional with my family. God is cool, huh?
So what does this mean to "build up my house"? Well, how do you build a house? You start with the foundation - making sure that it is strong and solid. How do you build up a family? Look at the verse above. Wise King Solomon stated that "the wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down." You know what this tells me? It's up to me to be intentional about taking care of my family. I looked up the word "folly" in the dictionary and it states that folly means "the state or quality of being foolish; lack of understanding or sense." I don't want that! I don't what to have a lack of understanding about what I'm doing to the members of my home. We can tear down those closest to us without even knowing it.
Have you ever been working on something when one of your children come in and want to tell you something? What do you do? For me it depends on the situation. If I'm focused on what I'm doing and don't want to be bothered, I give a look - and that usually stops that conversation short. Not good! Do children need to understand when to interrupt and when not to, of course. But, what's more important? My children or what I'm working on? The answer is clear - my children.
She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
How we say something can make as much of an impact. I've told our 12 year old this a lot. Attitude is everything! Learning when and how to speak is something that we all need to work on, not just our kids. My mouth opens and words come popping out that haven't gone through the "filter". You know what the filter is, right? That internal voice telling you whether or not you should say what you're thinking. That filter is sooo important, isn't it?
That filter is important with our actions as much as our words. The looks on our faces and our body language tells our family everything they need to know without even listening to what we are saying.
Here's what I'm going to be working on this month:
* Using words that will lift up those around me, instead of tearing down
* Taking care of how I speak to others
* Being aware of what my facial expressions and body language is saying to those I am speaking with
* Be intentional about finding things to praise those I come in contact with
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